When did the question "How are you?" elicit the response, "Hi! How are you?" and then end the conversation?
Life is becoming so impersonal! It is becoming increasingly difficult to "get real" with people. For example, now that I have finally chosen my major, I've been in classes with the same people for about a year or sometimes more. It is a lot of fun, but we have completely separated ourselves from the type of people we are in the outside world (except for a few exceptions). Sure we'll talk about work struggles or "I had an awesome date", but then it ends there. No one really cares about what you are really feeling or how you are doing. It's been nice working with a couple of students in my theory class (we have a sweet study group) because everyone actually cares about the other people. It makes the whole thing more enjoyable.
|Wait...did you just say "Tired???"|
Another example: When was the last time that you asked someone, "How are you?" (expecting an answer) and they responded with something other than, "Good" or "Fine"? You probably don't hear much else. I don't know if it is just an American thing, but no one here is comfortable telling you how they really are doing. However, at the same time, we aren't the best at feeling comfortable when someone does tell you that they are doing otherwise.
|Pop Tarts....the secret to happiness|
I hate this about the question "How are you?" so I refuse to say anything but how I really feel. This makes for awkward situations and some people think I'm always depressed or that I'm a pessimist. For example, the last couple of weeks I've been really tired...legitimately tired. So, when people ask me how I'm doing, I tell them: "I'm tired." or "I'm not feeling to well." or "I'm way stressed." Then they incredulously say, "You are always tired!" or "You seem to be always stressed, are you ok?"
Are you never stressed? Do you never get tired? You seem to be always "OK" or "Good". You know what? I think I'm more normal than someone who is 100% "Good" all the time. That's just a little too much for me. I don't know if I've ever been "OK" for a whole day. Life is full of ups and downs, so when I ask "How are you?", don't make me ask twice. Tell me really how you are.
We need to start a revolution to get society to let us be real people. I'm sick of being a robot. Let's start with "How are you?" It is not a replacement for hello. It is a question. When asked that question, be real. Don't be a faker and say you are always good....you aren't. If you are, then next time you say "Good", tell me your secret to the perfect happy life.
Note: This post makes me seem somewhat pessimist, but I'm really not. I love life and I love people. But, I love real life and real people more.